The company I retired from had a construction dept. which I was part of for 9 years. We did a lot structural steel erection. Our engineers specified 3/4" A325 bolts and washers. The torque was in 350-425ft/lb range. This was back in 2003 2004. Things have since changed. A490 has a higher torque depending on weather it's dry or lubricated. We never lubed the A325 bolts.
Below is a quote from Portland Bolt and manufacturing website.
"In 2016, ASTM A325 was officially withdrawn and replaced by ASTM F3125, in which A325 now becomes a grade under the F3125 specification. The F3125 specification is a consolidation and replacement of six ASTM standards, including; A325, A325M, A490, A490M, F1852, and F2280."
So A490 and A325 seem to be the same so either would be acceptable in my opinion.
Grade 5 wouldn't meet the specs, it also has a longer thread length. Structural bolts have a shorter thread length ,the bolt head and nut are larger than the standard 3/4" bolt I believe they are 1-1/6
You've gone to a lot of trouble to build this so don't skip on the bolts.
Summaries of technical information on common ASTM Specifications used in the construction fastener industry.
www.portlandbolt.com
Also once you've leveled the post base plate, build a wooden form around the base and fill with non shrink grout to the top of the plate
Be sure to add a piece of wood on the inside of the form to taper the edges around the form to create a sloped edge, this reduces chipping of the grout edge.