I think we're talking about two different nuts. The small nut that bhusted made goes on the end of the spindle
adjacent to the small bearing. The other, bigger nut secures the larger (chuck end) bearing.
That nut is normally quite tight and is the nut I was talking about when I mentioned using a punch and hammer.
Mine was slotted for a (very large) hook wrench so that's how the factory tightened them but even if I found one
that size, it would have been prohibitively expensive. I used a proper wrench for the small nut on mine.
bhusted, this is how I held the spindle when I re-installed the nut: the material is a thick piece of leather I bought
at a crafts store. I only tightened the vice enough to keep the spindle from turning to avoid distorting the spindle.
You mentioned using a drawbar to re-assemble the spindle. This is how I did it, though the plastic
pipe was a poor idea. I would use a steel tube next time, with properly squared ends. The spindle
is threaded into the body of a four jaw chuck for support.
I don't know about grease, but a call to a bearing supply place would probably give you the answer.
My understanding is that over greasing is to be avoided, and that the bearing should be about a third
full, but don't quote me on that.
. If you post your question in the general section, there are folks around
here that know more about that subject than I do.