My Neighbor Was Filming Us Again

Is there any way this is okay?

  • Yes

    Votes: 8 22.9%
  • No

    Votes: 17 48.6%
  • Probably not

    Votes: 6 17.1%
  • Maybe so

    Votes: 2 5.7%
  • Not sure/Decline to answer

    Votes: 2 5.7%

  • Total voters
    35
On one occasion, *he had a work light aimed in the daycare room & was filming what was going on in the daycare room during operating hours*. Nobody in our house will ever speak to him after that. The police said that was legal (even with the lighting).

I must assume the light and the a$$h0le were both on the street /sidewalk during during the filming, otherwise it would not have been legal.

However, that sounds like the work of a "kiddie diddler" to me!

I don't understand his "game" but I certainly would not trust him.

Brian
 
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You may want to do that for your protection in case he decides to make false claims against you when he can’t get a rise out of you for his filming. It sounds like he might be crazy enough to do something like that.
The cameras would be for your and your neighbors' protection. Put them up and get them recording to the cloud or a server somewhere. And he might come over to complain, go inside and let the cops deal with his whining. The clown is not bored; he's a lawsuit waiting to happen.
 
Seems like someone who'd be happier in an HOA. I'd just ignore him.

I had a neighbor that turned me in for running a business (among other attempts to 'get me' - for what reason I know not). I received a letter from the city informing me that I needed a business license and including the applications. I called and told them I wasn't running a business (which was true) and they said "OK, we'll make a note..." and that was the end of that.

GsT
 
You've gotten good advice so far. Anyone can film anything from their own or public property. Lots of security guards, etc., think otherwise, but that's the way it is.

Filming the day-care activity was probably an attempt to document a business activity, and probably not the work of a kid-toucher. That would be consistent with filming the activities in and around your garage.

Most zoning laws allow home-based businesses, but restrict the activities associated with them. But your neighborhood may also have deed restrictions even if it doesn't have an HOA. Be sure you are up on both zoning laws in your jurisdiction and any deed restrictions, just in case.

Responding in kind will escalate the situation when what you want to do is tamp it down. My advice would be to install a Ring camera or some such on the front of your garage so that you have your own data without being obvious about it. Then, ignore him. (After reviewing the relevant laws and restrictions, of course.)

Rick "hates bad neighbors but has had a few" Denney
 
I am truly sorry for anybody having to deal with nutbar neighbors. I live in an unincorporated area so don’t need a business license and am super careful about noise etc. All the people around me are wonderful friendly folks except my next door neighbor. She is truly mentally ill. I’ve learned just to try to not to engage as she lives for conflict and will only escalate and never give up. There is no way to deal with her or understand where she’s coming from.

How do you rationally deal with someone whose dead tree falls through your fence into your yard and accuses you of cutting their tree down, threatening to call the police? You don’t.
 
Not adding anything that wasn't said above, but maybe have your significant other or a friend film you doing "your thing" while he's filming. They could do it from the street in front of his house looking at yours. Then consult your local law enforcement showing them your video for an opinion on your activity; problem or not a problem. If it's not a problem, ignore the guy. If it is a problem, ask them what you could do differently so it's not a problem.

Bruce
 
Plain and simple, if you're doing nothing wrong:

Ignore him.

Let him eat up his sanity with whatever ridiculousness he's going on about. You can't change or help people like that because they don't want to be helped, they just want to be a PITA. Don't give him what he wants, ignore him.

But, I would get one or more HD cameras and point at least one in his general direction. Or maybe position it so it's looking at your driveway from the other side of the house, but the peripheral gets the street and sidewalk on his side. That way he won't think now you're filing him 24/7 (which could drive his mind even further down the rail on the "crazy train"). As long as he just is a general nuisance and an irritant, no issues and the recordings are of no consequence.

But if he starts being the neighbor who goes from being an irritant to someone who is damaging your property (or worse) you've got evidence to take to the police and get something done about it. But the problem with that is he will still live there. Short of being incarcerated, he's always going to be there. They can't make him sell his house and move because he's a problem in the neighborhood.

The whole daycare/bright light thing is just effing creepy, more so that he's willing to go through so much trouble to see through the one way film. He may think (in his own messed up way) he's doing something like "protecting the kids" or filming an "illegal business", but the one-way film is hiding little kids away from creepers and is for the kids safety. I also find it disturbing that he would do so so publicly. That means he has no compunction about pissing the neighbors off or doing something so extreme. That's kinda scary right there, who knows how far this moron will go? I know I wouldn't want to find out...

I'd probably consider putting up "screens" in the yard that I could have vines growing up to make a visual block to "creepers'. As long as your local ordinances allow it that is, because it will give the creeper across the street one more thing to complain about if it's not. And if your new HD camera catches him on your property trying to see around the screens, you got him for trespassing.

But again the critical point here is if you're doing nothing wrong; ignore him.

I'd avoid direct conflict with him, given the BS he's already doing. I'd even consider not engaging him in polite conversation. It doesn't seem like he would receive that as an honest attempt to get along but rather a direct challenge to him and what he wants to do. These types of people are already not thinking right, they've gone down a rabbit hole of their own choosing and a quite happy there down in the muck. You don't want him to get pushed (in his own mind) a little further and you be the object of his perceived grievances. He's already proven to you he's not completely "stable" and these days, that seems to be a recipe for disaster in the USA...

Every neighborhood seems to have at least one irritating neighbor. Best just to give them as wide a berth as possible....or sell the house and try a different neighborhood. You might get a better community, you might not.

I swear, I don't recognize this world any more....what is wrong with people these days.....seems like getting along for the common good is a thing of the past.

It's like it's all me, me, me now.....
 
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Look on Amazon for a "Reolink" camera kit. 4 cameras and the recording system will run about $300. It was so easy to set up that I put one on my wife's business. I run the app on my work computer, and can see what's going on when I hear a commotion around the house. They're also good for showing people on this forum how to dump a perfectly good mill on it's face. :-(. (https://rumble.com/v2mip76-the-boss-land-on-its-face.html)
 
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