We get used end mills from a local dealer, check for sharpness and usually can find suitable for hobby stuff.
Regarding speed, as already posted, material and machine matter as does coolant or lube.
We have some radio rack aluminum, gummy aluminum that sticks to the cutter.
Slow and somewhat heavier or fast and light, both work but need ATF for slippery to keep from sticking.
Steel, slow works best.
Slow rpm and slow movement as too fast of table overpowers the mill.
You get a feel for it with practice.
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