In my view, a water cooled torch is the way to go. I have a syncrowave 351 and a lincoln 200. The 351 is water cooled and the lincoln isn't. The torch on the lincoln gets hot quickly, and it really kills your rhythm having to wait for it to cool down. It's almost as bad as reaching the end of the duty cycle.
The syncrowave performs better in general and I've never had to wait for anything. I don't use pulse with either machine, preferring to pulse with the pedal. I can change the frequency on the lincoln which helps in cases where I need a really tight arc, but in other cases it's useless and serves only to produce substandard welds.
I can weld just fine with the lincoln but prefer the miller any day of the week, from welding sheet metal to 1/2 aluminum. There is a difference in arc for sure. The miller is more aggressive and with power to spare, I can get a puddle almost instantly with thick, cold aluminum. It's a pleasure to weld with it.
But my point is that no two machines are alike. You have to learn how to weld with each of them. The principles are the same, but not the welders, and some welders are easier to transition between than others.
I found early on that setting the amperage about 10-15% higher than the work thickness helps create a more consistent bead. You can push down on the pedal to get the bead started quickly but don't have to pull back as much once you get moving. Setting the amperage too high and having to back off a lot kills consistency. Plus, if you sneeze or twitch, that pedal gonna go to the floor and there goes your nice bead.
Bear in mind that, as you weld, the material gets hot and needs fewer amps to advance the puddle. You have to back off on the pedal or speed up the bead. I prefer to back off on the pedal as it give me more control.
I also use blocks of aluminum or wood to support my hands when I'm welding on a bench. Sometimes I need support only on my "torch hand," and sometimes both. Also, concentrate...on...the...puddle. Adding filler rod will become second nature with practice. So, will your torch control.
Try to keep consistent with torch height. I tend to weld real close to the work, which is fine with steel. But, with aluminum, you have to move the torch back much more when adding filler rod to avoid dipping the electrode in the puddle. The higher the torch height, the more you have to drive the pedal.
Keep at it. Tig is an artform and it takes a long time to really get good, but it's so worth the effort. Once you reach a certain point, you will be able to weld anything and not doubt yourself for a minute. It's hard to describe other than to say that it's a liberating feeling and opens the door to possibilities you never dreamed of, whether it's making simple repairs on the spot or fabricating intricate parts. It's an awesome tool.