Sometimes they just show up on your doorstep
https://www.hobby-machinist.com/threads/my-huge-new-to-me-cnc-mill.80578/#post-693874 But most times you have to look around a bit.
As others have said finding an older VMC with bad controls or just obsolete controls is really pretty easy. Nobody wants them, and you can pick them up for scrap price. The problem is finding one that has a small enough spindle motor that you can actually run it in a home shop with the normally limited power. You need to decide just what size machine you want, they come in all sizes from tiny to it ain't gonna fit in the space you have for it.
Seriously, the question is what do you want to do with it and what work envelope do you need to accomplish your planned tasks. No matter what you get, for at least that one job that's going to come up it will be at least 1 inch too small.
If I had only one mill I would want one that is both manual and CNC capable. There were a number of 10x50 BP clone type knee mills that were imported in the mid 80's to mid 90's and fitted with Anilam CNC controls as well as retaining the manual capability. The mills were built by Topwell, a Taiwan builder of quality machine tools, and may be branded Eagle, or a couple of others I forget. I think there might have been a couple of US companies doing this. I managed to snag one of these for $1000. Mechanically near new, but a tired controller, but even at that I managed to get a year or two out of the old controller.
Here is a good starting point. Search Tempest. Searches all of Craigslist within a radius that you set.
https://www.searchtempest.com/
To try to determine what condition the machine is in, look at the general condition of both the shop and the machine. A machine in a well kept shop is probably better cared for than one in a disaster area. Talk to the owner, just ask what condition the machine is in, most people are honest. Ask about known problems, and get some history. Hear it run if possible. Look at the ways, if moderate to no wear, then take it home with you.
One of the things that I do is to look at the oiler, if it's empty then I'm going to have a harder look at things, if it's half full I'm pretty happy. Look for oil on the ways and ball screws. A couple thousandths backlash in a ball screw would not worry me as long as everything turns smooth.
On VMCs you normally can't see the ball screws or ways, they are covered. This is where you reach under covers if possible and check for lubrication on the ways and ball screws. Don't expect too much, but you should have some oil or grease on a fingertip. The good news is that the old machines are pretty stout and don't wear much as long as they are lubricated. They were designed to be rode hard.
If you can run the machine then listen for unusual noises, but CNC machines are not normally quiet. Ball screws make noise at higher speeds, as can the spindles. It's pretty hard to tell where the line is between good and bad. Crunchy sounds are bad.