I wish they weren't so expensive but no, I don't have/use a proper tungsten grinder. I think it's probably most important when using thoriated to control the dust. Otherwise speaking, the results from a wheel grinder are totally acceptable unless you use ceriated rod which, is so crappy, it doesn't hold a point regardless of how little current you're passing. I'm using lanthalated now and like it a lot.
Also, I always used to do a quick dressing on the wheel to remove contaminants but, when things got busy, that fell to the wayside. In all honesty, I never noticed a difference whatsoever. In my experience, the issue about contamination seems mainly to be with aluminum. The weld piece surfaces need to be really clean to get a pretty weld. I've inadvertently welded AL immediately after welding steel using the same tip -and even that made no difference.