Unfortunately, trying to decide which gears you need will depend on what you want to do with your lathe. If you won't ever be cutting threads, get the gears that give you the slowest feed for best finish on turning, and maybe one or two sets for slightly rougher cuts. If you know which threads you will be cutting most, get the gears to give you those threads, plus a set for finish cuts.
Most of the time, sellers are only interested in selling the 'complete' set. (May be missing one or two on an older set.)